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Happy 6th Anniversary My Travis J.

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Happy 6th Anniversary My Travis J.

Melissa Fischer

My sweet husband,

12 years ago we became friends. It didn’t happen naturally or come easily. We are opposites to the core and learning to understand and appreciate each other’s differences was {and still is} both challenging and maddening at times. It wasn’t love at first sight, we never just “clicked” and things never just seemed to “fit.” There were more miscommunications and misunderstandings in our relationship than I think anyone would ever want to deal with {especially as a high schooler}. Yet, somehow, we stuck it out. We were dedicated and determined to figure each other out and make our friendship work. We muddled our way through the confusing and the difficult and the frustrating. Our rocky start gave us a foundation in our relationship that has proven to be invaluable. Even before we “committed” we were committed to fighting for each other and for our relationship.

 
 Friends.

Friends.

 

9 years ago you had my heart. Our missions trip to Florida. I remember it so clearly, the moment the Lord spoke to me. The moment He told me as clearly as someone speaking right next to me that I would marry you, that you would be my husband. It was abrupt and out of the blue, but so clear I was sure it had to be audible to everyone around me. To most it would have seemed crazy. We were just friends then without even an inkling of desire from either of us for more than that in our relationship. Yet despite that, in that moment, I knew in my heart with more assuredness than I had ever felt before that you would be my one, my forever. It was in that moment, I believe, you had my heart. You didn’t even ask for it, and I don’t know that I really even chose to give it to you. It was almost like God just swooped in, took it and handed it to you. It was never scary though because I knew you were that the Lord had for me. So I let go, let you in and trusted that God work out the rest.

 The missions trip where the Lord revealed to both of us we would be each other's forever.

The missions trip where the Lord revealed to both of us we would be each other's forever.

8 years ago you asked me to be your girl. To this day that is one of the most treasured days {weekends} of my life. That day you took my hand and put it all on the line for me and for us, you changed my whole world. The memories of that weekend are so vividly imprinted on my heart that thinking of them now still makes me feel exactly how I did then. It was this completely overwhelming excitement and butterflies and at the same time a peace and confidence so unshakeable that yes was the only answer I could possibly give you. Nothing felt as right as being your girl.

 
 The weekend we started dating.

The weekend we started dating.

 

7 years ago you asked me for forever. Magical, beautiful, romantic, extravagant, some would say “over the top”, I would say “only in the absolute best way possible.” You were truly my prince charming who {literally} whisked me away in a horse drawn carriage for a fairy tale evening. It was like something out of a book or a movie. I remember holding on to every minute of that date, soaking in each fairy tale moment, yet longing for the end of it to come because I hoped so badly that at its conclusion you would propose to me. When that moment finally came {yes, I can say “finally” after a carriage ride all over town, a stop at our favorite coffee shop, a picnic in the park, a drive up the river, a hike up a bluff, watching the sunset and dancing the night away}, the moment you asked me to marry you, to be your wife and to spend the rest of my life with you, there was not an ounce of doubt, not one second of hesitation. I could not say yes fast enough.

 
 Engaged.

Engaged.

 

6 years ago I said “I do.” I knew that I didn’t know, yet I thought because I knew I didn’t know I really somehow knew what saying “I do” meant. I didn’t know. I still don’t know the full extent of what it means. But what I do know is that I would say it over again any day. I do. I do to the messy and exhausting and frustrating and annoying and hard. I do to joy and laughter and love and commitment and friendship. I do to the late night discussions and working it out. I do to the early morning snuggles and content quietness. Everyday I would choose {and am choosing} to say I do to you.

 
 Married.

Married.

 

I’ve pondered which of these moments was the most important, which was the most monumental in our relationship. You could say it was when we chose to fight for our friendship, the foundation of it all. You could also say it was when God spoke to both of us and said we would be each other’s forever. Some might argue it was when you “officially” asked me to commit to you and be your girl. Others would say it was when you asked me for forever and I promised to be your wife. Most would say it was definitely when we said “I do” and vowed for our lifetime. I would say they are all amazingly and equally important.

Each of these moments changed everything. Each of these moments we chose and said yes to commitment. Each of these moments mattered.

During all of these times, we in different ways learned the value and importance of true commitment. We learned how to persevere. We learned how to be patient with one another. We learned how to pursue one another. We learned how to try to understand one another. We learned how to forgive on another. We learned that our relationship was worth fighting for.

Today, 6 years into our marriage, I could not be more grateful for the lessons we have learned. I could not be more grateful for all the ways we have grown. I could not be more grateful for the foundation of commitment we have built. I could not be more grateful for God’s faithfulness in bringing us together through an unlikely friendship and leading us to our forever together.

 
 6 years in.

6 years in.

 

You are my very best friend. You make me laugh. You support me. You challenge me. You encourage me. You provide for me. You care for me. You protect me. You love me. You annoy me. You frustrate me. You confuse me. You drive me crazy. But most importantly, you teach me.

You teach me how to work hard. You teach me how to persevere. You teach me how to have grace. You teach me how to forgive. You teach me how to trust. You teach me how to love better. You teach me how to be more of who Christ wants me to be.  

I am so thankful for the things you have taught me and continue to teach me everyday. I am so thankful that God ordained we spend forever together. You are my greatest gift. I will treasure you forever.

 
 Best Friends.

Best Friends.

 

Happy Anniversary. I love you.

Your Melissa Marie